Your wedding planner is there to make one of the most memorable days of your life as magical as possible, and that also means completely worry-free for you so you can enjoy your day to the fullest extent.
They make sure your wedding is seamless, from the initial planning stages to the actual day – and that usually means a lot of running around in the background to make sure all the different moving parts are working together seamlessly. If it isn’t, well, any wedding planner worth their salt would make sure you and your guests would never know the difference!
To help your planner help you have the best day ever, here are some tips on how best to work with your wedding planner. (Assuming you have already found the wedding planner that is right for you!)
Keep Lines of Communication Open - AKA - Tell us Everything!
There are so many things to plan. It can all be so overwhelming. Hey, that’s why you got a wedding planner, right? But you have to make sure to communicate with your wedding planner as often as necessary so all the details are hashed out according to your vision.
You wouldn’t want the day to come and realize there are a lot of facets to the wedding that you don’t like – but don’t worry, a good wedding planner will know exactly what to ask you so the perfect picture of your day is painted, all you have to do is answer....honestly!
If you like something - say it.
If you don't like something - say it.
If you are worried or concerned about something - say it.
If you have a crazy Aunt Sue that drives you bonkers but will be at the wedding - say it.
If you are struggling with a detail - say it.
If you are unsure - say it.
If you are having second thoughts on a design or vendor decision - say it.
If there is something super important to you - say it.
Tell your planner everything so we can be the best advocate for you! If you like a floral design but aren't in love with the shade of blue - say it --- there's an easy fix! If your crazy Aunt likes to have one too many cocktails... let us know so we can keep an eye on the situation. If you are struggling making a decision - your planner can likely help you reason or make a candid suggestion that will make it easier. The more we know, the better we show up for you on wedding weekend!
Trust your Planner
Trust in your planner and their planning process is key! Your planner has experience with what works and what doesn’t and new ways to reinvent old traditions or unique suggestions for a difficult room layout or vendor. If they’re already established, you’ve checked out their reputation and like their previous work, try not to worry too much and let them do their job – trust that they have your best interest at heart! That doesn’t mean you have to concede to every idea your planner throws out – it’s your vision, and your wedding planner is there to make the best possible version of that vision happen!
Organize Yourselves
Your wedding planner will likely come with years of experience under their belt – their work is their craft but being a mind-reader isn't one of them! Organize your thoughts as to what specific things you like or don't like, Talk about food preferences with your fiancé BEFORE the tasting not during it. Get aligned with your fiancé on the budget, your ideas, etc. before hoping into the planning process. Your wedding planner serves as a sounding board as well and we don't expect you to have all of the answers. Just align your wants, general ideas and budget with your fiancé before jumping all in!
Be on Time & on Schedule
If you have a scheduled face-to-face meeting with your planner - be there on time. Same goes if they have given you a deadline to make a decision. Your planner has created a process for you to follow that keeps everything moving along while keeping a good pace.
If you are asked to send over the final guest list or seating arrangement, don’t delay – your planner is following a timeline that is also connected to communicating those details over to your other vendor partners so they can also do their best work!
Be kind, be Respectful & Have Fun
Your wedding planner will be your main communication line on wedding day. Be kind and respectful throughout the planning process as they will be there for you when you are nervous or need to use the restroom 5 minutes before the ceremony or simply when you need a drink without asking!
And remember to enjoy this period of your life. It's not every day that you get to plan one of the biggest days of your life! Sometimes decisions can seem stressful or moments can be tiring but remember that your wedding planner is your advocate and is working tirelessly to make sure you have the wedding day of your dreams. Be kind, be respectful and most of all...remember to enjoy these small moments and have fun with them! From cake tastings with your fiancé to gown shopping with your gal pals and guest list building with your parents... these are the moments that you should embrace (and your wedding planner will be with you every step of the way)!
Remember what the day is all about
With many different moving parts, there’s always the possibility that things don’t all go according to plan. Typically small hiccups won't even be known by a guest or the couple - your planner is there to circumvent these things from happening. However, when there is a tornado warning followed by fierce hail (true story - ask us later) or a power outage on the hottest day of the year (also a true story - we'll tell ya later) take a deep breath – regardless of anything else, this is a celebration for you and your loved ones and you just married your very best friend and partner in life. You aren't able to take these moments back, so make the best out of it and enjoy every moment!
Post was written in collaboration with Dane Kolbaba
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